Zachary Zane

My Non-Monogamous Girlfriend Still Has Sex With Her Exes

And yeah, I want to be with her forever.

Let This Couple Prove that Polyamory Actually Can Last Long-Term

Ed and Diana have been together—and poly—since long before the rise of ethical non-monogamy in the cultural zeitgeist. Here’s how they’ve made it work.

Polyamory Doesn't Have to Be This Complicated

With increased poly visibility comes a deluge of misunderstanding on what polyamory should actually feel like. Allow me to course correct.

8 Things That Will Probably Happen During the Holidays If You’re Polyamorous

Including: Apologizing profusely when your parents confuse your partners’ names.

Mistake #3: De-Escalating My Relationship Blew Up in My Face

In his third installment of “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” Zachary Zane explains why de-escalating (or slowing down) his relationship turned out to be a recipe for resentment.

I Didn’t Have “Commitment Issues”—I Had a Valid Sexual Identity I Didn’t Know Existed

Mistake #2: Unintentionally (but Maybe Not *Accidentally*) Cheating on My Boyfriend

“Navigating Non-Monogamy” columnist Zachary Zane explains how unclear boundaries in his open relationship paved the way for him to maybe, sort of, kinda cheat on his boyfriend—despite *technically* not lying. It’s complicated.

Mistake #1: Diving Into Polyamory for All the Wrong Reasons

Introducing “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” a new column in which Zachary Zane walks you through all the fumbles he’s made on his polyamory journey so that you, dear reader, don’t have to.

I Gave a Secret Hand Job at a Frat Bro Holiday Party

I hated fraternities…until I learned just how gay they are.

I Pretended My Grindr Hookup Was a Close Friend and F*cked Him in My Parents’ Hot Tub

Hometown horniness: 1. Parental cockblocking: 0.

Bi “Visibility” Is Good, but Bi Community Is Better

I just want a safe space where my boyfriend, girlfriend, theyfriend, and I can all make out. Is that too much to ask?

Why Don't Millennials and Gen Zers Identify as Swingers?

The label, which you might associate with the key parties of the '70s, is fading out of style with younger generations, and for good reason.