Best Pegging Sex Positions to Try for Beginners and Pros

The Classic

If you're both turned on by consensual power play, The Classic is the way to go. Your partner is bent over in a submissive position as you enter from behind. This one is also great for consensual spanking if the vibes are right!

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The Pretzel Dip

The pretzel dip position allows deep penetration and eye contact at the same time, says Stewart. This position is really for those who enjoy grinding; typically, those with front-facing vulvas/vaginas or those enjoy a lot of pressure on their clitoris with their deep penetration. It's versatile and works for vaginal or anal penetration. To do it, the receiving partner lies on their side while the penetrating partner kneels and straddles the receiver's bottom leg, wrapping it around their side.

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Armchair Expert

The easiest route to a seated pegging session is to have the receiver sit on the penetrating partner's lap, facing them. “When facing them, it's more advantageous if you're in a freestanding chair with no arms. That way, the person being penetrated has more freedom to move their legs in positions that they like,” says Stewart. If you want to try it with the receiver facing away from the penetrating partner, use a chair with arms for leverage, she says.

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All In

Try a standing position with the receiver bent over a couch or high bed. “The person being penetrated spreads their legs apart and spreads their butt cheeks open with their hands. The penetrating partner then has full control to go "all in," says Stewart. “To add some kinky zing, use a spreader bar at their ankles and/or cuff their wrists and thighs together.”

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Spoons, Butt Style

“This side-by-side position is a P-in-V classic and it works great for anal,” says Queen. “Both partners can relax, the front partner can masturbate or enjoy a reach-around, and it's slower and more sensual than a lot of positions because lying on your side doesn't lend itself to pile-driving.” If your partner is a bit skittish about a super realistic penis, start with a dildo that's non-dick-like and has a nice little curve.

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The Adaptive Peg

“People who don't have a ton of physical stamina or have achy joints may need some support for thrusting. Use some assistive devices!” recommends Blanton. In the Adaptive Peg, the receiver uses a sex sling to hold their legs up and take pressure off the lower back. “This allows either partner to masturbate while pegging, an extra bonus! And the face-to-face contact can increase the intimacy and help the pegging partner keep track of how the receptive partner is feeling," says Blanton.

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The Cowpoke

“Like in cowgirl, this one begins with the harness-wearer on their back and the pegged person kneeling over them face-to-face. They can lower themselves onto the dildo and control the depth and speed of thrusting—it's a great intermediate position,” says Queen. “Plus, eye contact, kissing, dirty talk, all the fun extras.”

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The First Timer

Have your partner get into doggy with their face and arms down on the bed. If you're going in anally, go incredibly slowly, letting them guide how deeply you go. (It can take a super long time for your partner to relax. This is COMPLETELY normal. Be patient!) “Any position where the pegged partner needs to hold the position will increase muscle tension and make it harder to relax, which is particularly significant when doing anal, where relaxation is extra-crucial. Using sex furniture (or sturdy home furnishings—this is what a nice stable ottoman is for!) is a great addition to this kind of pose,” says Queen

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The Starter Gun

A seated position is another good beginner position because your partner can control how much is going on, backdoor-wise. It's also one of the more romantic pegging positions because it's super conducive to gazing into each other's eyes and sharing deep kisses. It’s also great for angling yourself towards sensitive spots. “Most prostates are 2.5-3.5 inches into the anus up toward the belly button. For people with vaginas, at the same depth, you can press the interior anal wall up toward the belly button and hit the innermost hot spots,” says Blanton.

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The Strap-On Stroke

If you're on top, you can watch how your partner is taking it all, plus they have their hands free to masturbate as you thrust. Go ahead and join them. If you don't have a harness with a spot for a bullet, go ahead and jam one down the front—the harness will hold it in place. (Note: Sometimes people with a penis go soft when they're penetrated—not because they are not enjoying the hell out of it but because, biology. Others get super hard. Again, biology. Check in with your partner to see how they're feeling.)

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Bossy Pants

If you're feeling extra bossy, pop some comfy pillows on a desk or table, bend your partner over it and tell them to hold on tight. You might need to bind their wrists to make your point. Enter from behind and hike a leg up on the table for leverage (and also just to feel like a bad-ass). But before you go all in, toy with them a little first. Touch them, kiss them, play with them. Don't let them have you until they're begging.

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The Daring Dip

Have your partner lie flat on their belly, with arms over their head. Squat over them and go to town. You'll be on tiptoe, bracing your hands on the ground or their back. For more stimulation, they can hump their hand or a toy.

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Watch and Learn

Sit on the edge of the bed, legs spread wide and lube up your silicone boner, letting your partner watch. Have your back up until they're sitting on your lap. They can control how deep they go and you can also generously give them a reacharound. If you sit on a nice buzzy vibe at the same time, you will both be moaning in about two seconds.

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Going on a Bender

This a good beginner pose because it's easy to see where you need to go, but take things slowly. “Even when a partner has a fantasy about pegging, the reality can be different than expected. Start by gently touching them around the perineum and bum on the outside. Lube up a finger and gently insert, letting your partner guide how deep you go. It’s a good idea to stop and let the bum get comfortable around your finger before going deeper,” says Blanton.

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The Steamy Strap-On

The shower offers the general sexiness of soapy slipperiness plus the distinct advantage of immediate clean-up afterwards. The keys to a successful wet peg are making sure everyone is holding onto something sturdy and being 8 billion percent certain that all your equipment is safe for water use—aka submersible and not just splash-proof. And yeah, you still need lots of lube. “Since most dildos are silicone, a silicone lube is not always a good choice, so this might be the time to try a coconut oil-based lube,” says Queen. “The other thing? Negotiate who stands in the spray. Water in the face is an acquired kink.

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Reverse Cowboy

In this position—kind of a reverse-reverse cowgirl—your partner gets to control how fast and deep they take your silicone love. They'll also have a free hand or two to rub themselves as they ride you. Caveat: No stimulation happening for you here—except, you know, the joy of blowing someone's mind—so pop in a nice little vibe so you're not just lying there staring at their (happy) ass

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